Is She Cheating? - Many Unsuspecting Husbands Find Out Too Late

As widespread as female infidelity has become, unsuspecting husbands are often shocked to learn of a cheating wifes extramarital affair. If a husband doesnt know how to recognize the signs of infidelity, by the time he finds out his wife is cheating, it may be too late to save the marriage.

July 8, 2004 -- Couples therapists report a 50% increase in female infidelity. The cover story in the current issue of Newsweek is all about cheating wives: The New Infidelity From Office Affairs to Internet Hook-Ups, More Wives Are Cheating Too. Yet, as widespread as female infidelity has become, many unsuspecting husbands have no idea their wives are having an affair. They often find themselves in a situation like David in the Newsweek article, who found out his wife was cheating the day she told him she wanted a divorce. Unsuspecting husbands are often surprised when they learn of an unfaithful wifes extramarital affair. But, the stark reality is that if a husband isnt familiar with the signs of infidelity, by the time he finds out his wife is cheating, its usually too late.

Women Dont Become Cheaters Overnight
Yet many of the signs may have been there all along, says Ruth Houston, infidelity expert and author of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs. A woman doesnt become a cheating wife overnight. Infidelity develops in stages. In almost every case, there are numerous telltale signs along the way.

Know How to Spot the Telltale Signs
Says Houston, Many of the warning signs of impending infidelity are evident long before the infidelity actually takes place. The husband who knows how to spot these telltale signs at least has a fighting chance to save his marriage. He wont end up being devastated like John LeSage in the Newsweek article who came home one day and found that his wife of 24 years had disappeared. John might have done things differently, but he never got the chance, because he never knew his marriage was in jeopardy.

Identifying the Problem
The first step in solving a problem is knowing that the problem exists. There are certain telltale signs that serve as a wake-up call that a marriage is in trouble. A husband doesnt need to hire a private detective or invest in sophisticated surveillance equipment to find out if his wife is having an affair, explains Houston. If he knows what to look for, all he needs are his eyes, his ears and his personal knowledge of his wife. But the whole key is knowing what to look for."

21 Categories of Telltale Signs
In the course of her infidelity research, Houston has identified 21 categories of telltale signs, with numerous signs under each category. Of course, no one can be expected to know them all, she concedes. Thats why every couple should own a good relationship reference book like Is He Cheating on You? to alert them to the warning signs of infidelity -- just as every family should have a medical reference book in their home to alert them to the signs and symptoms of health and medical problems.

Universal Telltale Signs
Some of the signs of infidelity documented in Houstons book, Is He Cheating on You? apply exclusively to cheating men. But many of the signs are universal and apply equally to both cheating husbands and cheating wives. Even though Houstons website www.IsHeCheatingOnYou.com is directed to women, a third of the e-mails she receives come from men seeking advice about various telltale signs.

Wise Husbands Stay Tuned
A wise husband will stay tuned into his marriage, and be aware of his wifes feelings and the things that are going on in her life. Its not about being overly suspicious, says Houston. Its about being aware. With infidelity affecting 80% of all marriages, every husband should be cognizant of the warning signs. His marriage may depend on his ability to spot those telltale signs in time.

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Ruth Houston, author of Is He Cheating on You? 829 Telltale Signs, is an infidelity expert and writer/columnist whose lifestyle and relationship articles have appeared in major magazines for the past 20 years. She has been a frequent guest on Good Day New York, TalkAmerica, the Mike Gallagher Show and many other TV and radio talk shows nationwide. Ruth is a member of the American Society of Journalists and Authors, and is listed in Working Press of the Nations and Bacon's Media Bank.

Ruth is available for interviews on any of the topics below:

    Is She Cheating? - How a Husband Can Tell

    What a Husband Can Do To Decrease The Likelihood Of Infidelity In His Marriage

    Warning Signs of Impending Infidelity Every Husband Should Know

    Why Shes Cheating on You Reasons Women Cheat

    How a Husband Can Nip Impending Infidelity in the Bud

    Men and Women Cheat for Different Reasons

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